Steven Lucas

We often associate grieving with the death of a loved one. But, feelings of loss can extend to the ending of a relationship, the death of a pet or being asked to leave a job, to name but a few. The following stages can occur during the grieving cycle. Try not to think of this […]

Can we tell how likely someone is to have an affair based on their particular attachment style? Research carried out by the University of Montreal suggests that we can. The Research: The research discovered that the probability of someone having an affair during the lifetime of a relationship varies between 40% and 76%. Isn’t this

A Biblical Perspective on our mental health: Luke 17:6 He replied, “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it will obey you.” We each have a mulberry tree growing in us. Its roots go deep into every part of

Anger displacement occurs when you direct your angry thoughts and feelings at someone or something that is safe or convenient, rather than the actual source of your anger. For example your boss gives you a hard time at work, but you say nothing and take it out on your partner when you get home. Not

“A relationship can force us to revisit every feeling and memory in the legend of ourselves” Richo (2002:3) Introduction to Relationship Difficulties Every relationship faces challenges, but how you respond to them can determine whether your bond grows stronger or weaker. Many couples struggle with issues such as poor communication, lack of balance, or external

Picture this positive scene; A family spent a great weekend together. The weekly chores were quickly dealt with, which left time to spend at the local park playing ball games and having fun. The family then had dinner together, laughing and talking about the events of the day. Then they switched on the TV…. According

Do you have trouble getting off to sleep? Or do you wake up in the early hours of the morning and can’t get back to sleep again? Here are some suggestions for a better night’s sleep: Stress: Find ways to reduce your daily stress levels as this can disrupt your sleep. What adjustments do you

Rosenberg (1965) described self esteem as a “favourable or unfavourable attitude toward the self”. Although self-esteem often refers to our overall feelings of self-worth, body image and self-confidence are expressions used to identify specific areas of our self-esteem. So how can we obtain a healthy level of self-esteem without becoming over confident or arrogant? Stop

Being assertive: When we were growing up, we may have been told that if we studied hard and achieved success academically, and were prepared to work hard in our jobs, we could become the managing director or CEO of a company. We may have been told that when we found somebody we liked and fell

Thought reframing: There is an adage in CBT that says what you think about creates feelings. So, imagine I spoke to you each day and told you how well you sounded; that I had spoken to your family, friends and colleagues and they had all commented on how much they value you and how hard